During pregnancy and after giving birth, the body changes and even desire can transform. Sometimes it drops, other times it grows: everything is normal. If you experience physical pain or discomfort, talk to those who follow you. After giving birth, wait 4—6 weeks to resume sexual activity and return to doing it calmly, only when you feel ready. The rearrangement may take more than 12 months in some cases. Emotional closeness matters more than anything.
In the weeks after giving birth, physical aftereffects and tiredness can make it difficult to regain pleasure or willingness to contact right away. Physiology itself can explain the phenomenon from a hormonal point of view (a drop in estrogen and progesterone and an increase in prolactin). Even the constant presence of the newborn in contact can leave little mental and bodily space for desire and there is nothing to be ashamed of nor will you feel guilty. Taking time, proceeding slowly, and valuing tenderness can help you regain intimacy. If the difficulty persists, a consultation with a gynaecologist or midwife who is an expert in the pelvic floor may offer support.